You are going through a divorce and you do not want it to ruin your relationships with your kids. Fighting for custody may be difficult and frustrating, but it is a worthy pursuit. It is important to remember that you have rights as a father during divorce.
Do not let the court favor the mother and cheat you out of getting the visitation or custody you deserve. Here are some tips you should follow as you begin your custody battle.
1. Fight hard from the beginning
Whether you want an aggressive visitation schedule or you want your children to live with you, determine your goal and fight for it from the start. If you are lenient and settle for less during the initial negotiations, fighting for more will only be a more difficult uphill battle. Start making a strategy to show the court that you are an active father and understand your child needs in terms of care and routines.
2. Do not talk about child support
Leave child support issues out of all your custody conversations. Your wife probably assumes you want more custody so you will not have to pay as much child support. If you tie child support into any of your custody negotiations, you will have a hard time convincing anyone that you have pure intentions for spending more time with your kids.
3. Negotiate with the mother
Custody battles can easily get nasty and toxic. While it may be contentious, do your best to extend an olive branch to the mother of your children. Once all is said and done, you two will probably be co-parenting. While you should fight for your rights, avoid getting unnecessarily vengeful. Be open to compromise on certain issues so you can have an amicable co-parenting relationship in the future.
Fighting for custody as a dad may seem hopeless, but that is not true. Do these things with the help of an attorney, and you will have a better chance of getting a favorable visitation schedule or custody arrangement.