Co-parenting after your divorce is often called a juggling act, but you know it’s a lot more painful than that. To you, it can often seem like a tug-of-war. This is never truer for single parents in Texas than during the holiday season, when you and your ex are forced to trade off having the kids on major holidays like Thanksgiving and Christmas. After your divorce, the holidays you used to cherish now become painful reminders of happier days, especially if you find yourself spending Christmas morning alone.
There are many ways to enjoy the holidays even when the children are spending time with the other parent, as the Huffington Post points out. The following tips might help you lessen the pain on a lonely holiday and build new memories:
- Start new traditions with your kids for those holidays you won’t have them, such as a big dinner and opening presents on Christmas Eve.
- Plan to do something fun with friends or family if you think you might be lonely when the kids go to your ex’s.
- Have a “staycation” and a day of self-care, such as going to a movie, reading a book in a hot bath with some wine or getting a massage.
- Remember that your children’s other parent probably misses the kids when they are away too, and make an effort to help your ex enjoy his or her time with them.
The changes that come after a divorce can be difficult and painful. However, each new holiday brings new opportunities to make happy memories with your children and enjoy some time by yourself and with your other loved ones.